The beginning of a relationship is a wonderful phase. Commonly referred to as the honeymoon phase. Having various first experiences together, maybe you went ice-skating, burlesque dancing, watched Schindler's List. Amongst all the initial elation you eventually begin to wonder where your partner sits on a few subjects. This may involve their political views, their thoughts on an environmentally sustainable future, world peace! However, your final speculation is likely to be "will they be into my Anal Fantasy Collection Double Penetration Dildo with Additional Ribbing."
You want to encourage transparency in your relationship, however you may be worried about intimidating your partner or being judged. Therefore here's some things to consider before making the jump.
Understand yourself first!
Before you love another, you must first love yourself! Effectively this means you must understand the entire shibang associated with your pleasurable products. This means identifying what your desire means mentally and physically. The better you can interpret your own desires the more comfortable your partner will feel when they are first introduced. Further, this will encourage the identification of limitation and boundaries when using a range of sex toys.
1. The Mental Side
Acknowledging what your desire means mentally. For example, you may like to feel vulnerable during sex. Vulnerability is loaded with sub topics that are essential for you and your partner to understand. Firstly, you need to know how vulnerability may be misinterpreted. It is sex specific! Meaning that you don't like feeling vulnerable outside of the bedroom. When your going for a moonlit walk through town and some alleyways are looking a bit creepy. This is not a potential form of foreplay! You are legitimately scared and would like to be comforted. Vulnerability does not mean a reduction in intimacy. The additional trust required to feel vulnerable during sex reinforces intimacy. Understanding the difference between enjoyable vulnerability and uncomfortable abuse is paramount! Vulnerability is usually accompanied with bondage toys. Bondage itself has misconceptions that are held by the general public. The most outrageous comments I've heard from bondage ignoramuses is that it means that the participant must of had some sort of issues growing up. This was a rare case, but it displays that you need to be prepared for any reaction. The incorrect approach would be to put yourself on a progressive pedestal. Your comfortability with alternative forms or more racy forms of sexual expression does not put you above anyone else. Sex is sex, if somebody doesn't like something, that's absolutely fine!
Vulnerability was just one example of desire that shows how interpretation can influence a relationship. The same thinking could be applied to any desire that involves adult toys. To cover them all would take forever, so do some research before making the verbal jump!
2. The Physical Side
The second concept that's important to understand before introducing your adult toys is physical capabilities and limitations. This may involve the most minute measurements involved with vibrators, dildos and cock rings. To larger measurements that we could associate with sex furniture and door swings. Assuming you've already had sex with your partner devoid of adult products. It's likely you’ve got a reasonable gauge of the physical limitations of your preferences of your partner. Consider that the measurements of your adult toy have the potential to make your partner feel like less. If your man has an average longitude, it's best to hold on the fourteen inch realistic King Cock dwelling in the bottom draw. If they have the flexibility of a parking ticket, keep the six piece hogtie tied up in the closet. Whatever you do, never buy a piece of lingerie inferring your partner needs to lose weight!
A common example of physical discomfort comes with the introduction of anal toys. This discomfort comes from the fact that this region has not been touched in a sensual manner. This isn't limited to anal play! Everyone has different areas that are sensitive or overly sensitive. This could be touching the sides of the body. Overly sensitive areas cause some people to jolt like they've received an electric shock.
Before you even consider bringing out your sex toys. Consider all the ways it will influence the relationship. It may be a case of starting off with less intimidating, smaller or softer sex toys before. Understanding the positioning of your adult toys in your relationship is vital. The greater your consideration, the greater the benefits. Propelling your relationship towards new levels of pleasure and intimacy.