5 of the Best Cowgirl Sex Position Variations to Boost Your Sex Life
If you love the Cowgirl, but your rodeo is lacking the big O, it may be time to saddle up in a new sex position. The Cowgirl sex position is a great way to ride (or be ridden) straight into pleasure town. However, this seated ride may not always hit the right angle or elevation to bring yourself to orgasm.
Ready to giddy-up and try a new way to ride? Read on for five new Cowgirl variations to try.
But first...
What is the Cowgirl Sex Position?
The Cowgirl sex position is a seated sex position with one partner seated on top of the other. Cowgirl allows the seated partner to take added control over the movement and intensity. This is a fun power switch-up from positions like Missionary.
How to Do the Cowgirl Sex Position
The penetrating partner lies flat on their back with their legs longways. This is best done on a flat surface for added comfort. The receiving (or riding) partner will come close, facing them. The receiving partner will squat down, kneeling with their knees on either side of the penetrating partner’s pelvis. Penetration is best done by either partner reaching down and holding the penetrating option. The receiving partner can then lower themselves down until they reach a seated position. Movement is then done in two ways. The penetrating partner can push upwards with their pelvis, and the receiving partner can rock back and forth.
Why Try the Cowgirl Sex Position?
The Cowgirl sex position offers an exciting way for the receiving partner to be on top and in control of the movement. Couples who want to try new power dynamics or whose penetrating partner has limited movement can both benefit from the Cowgirl. Facing each other in Cowgirl, the receiving partner can lean lower to kiss and cuddle. Cowgirl also boasts a great way to achieve clitoral stimulation - hands free! The receiving partner can rock and grind their pelvis against the penetrating partner. For riding partners with a vulva, this motion helps to stimulate a larger area of the vulva and brush contact along the clitoris.
But, if you find the Cowgirl isn’t quite hitting the spot and you’re needing more angles and sensation to explore, read on for five new variations to try.
Variation 1: The Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
Difficulty rating: 1/5
Flip it and reverse it! The reverse cowgirl position takes a new angle to penetration. Plus, for those who love a bit of booty admiration and play, the reverse cowgirl delivers a great way to explore more than just riding...
How to do the Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
Take Cowgirl – but in reverse. Instead of the receiving partner facing the penetrating partner when they straddle them, they face the opposite way. It isn’t advised to begin in Cowgirl and flip to reverse cowgirl while still penetrated, as this can be painful and cause a potential penile fracture. Instead, sit backwards in a similar fashion to Cowgirl, but seated closer to the lower part of the pelvis for easier penetration. Ensure that if your penetrating partner has a penis, you do not bend it too far forward for penetration. This is why being seated lower can help. To steady your ride, you can also lean and grasp the penetrating partner’s legs for added stability.
Why Try the Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
If you love G-spot stimulation, the Reverse Cowgirl is one ride you have to go on. The vaginal canal (including the G-spot) tilts backward toward the lower back. Whilst the G-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina, the backwards position of reverse cowgirl makes for a perfect thrust direction to hit this area. Thanks to the reverse direction, the receiver's booty is also in reach for added play (or teasing). This position is perfect for grabbing, spanking, or added anal penetration.
Variation 2: The Seesaw Sex Position
Difficulty Rating: 3/5
The Seesaw sex position is a variation that keeps the seated fun of cowgirl but brings you both closer to each other. If Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl is a bit hard on your knees, try the Seesaw sex position! This position offers a gentler ride that still delivers on sensation.
How to do the Seesaw Sex Position
Begin in the classic Cowgirl sex position. Once on top, the penetrating partner can move from lying down to a more upward position with their torso. As the penetrating partner comes upright, the receiving partner can extend their legs. The legs can lie flat on either side or hugging in a cross-legged position. Either of these options helps take some pressure off the knees. It's recommended that each partner use their hands to brace themselves once in position. If not, this can be quite an ab workout when things get moving! To move and grind together, the tempo and intensity are all up to the receiver. They can either use their bracing arms to push forwards and backwards and thrust or grind down onto the penetrating partner.
Why Try the Seesaw Sex Position?
For those who find that penetration in Cowgirl hits a bit too far, the Seesaw is here to help. The pelvic tilt of the penetrating partner in Seesaw makes for shallower penetration. However, you then get more external stimulation with grinding. With the penetrating partner’s pelvis more upright, there’s more area to work against for clitoral stimulation.
The one reason why this move is such a go-to is because you can do three sex positions without too much required. First, begin in Cowgirl for intense internal stimulation. Then, move to the Seesaw to begin more grinding and external sensation. Finally, come closer to finish in the the Basket position . The transition between these three sex positions offers a fun movement and control switch-up. Take it from thrusting in Cowgirl, to an intense grind in Seesaw, to the Basket, where you can kiss and cuddle as you ride to O-town. Or, try this in reverse and begin with close kisses and cuddles, and finish up with an intense ride in Cowgirl. Yee-haw!
Variation 3: The Side Straddle Sex Position
Difficulty rating: 4/5
If you love to ride Cowgirl, but crave more clitoral stimulation, the Side Straddle sex position is for you. The Side Straddle sex position is also a great option for the penetrating partner to help bring a bit more bounce to your ride.
How to do the Side Straddle Sex Position:
The best way to hop on the Side Straddle is to begin like the Reverse Cowgirl sex position. The receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner in reverse. However, it’s advised to not have penetration until in the side straddle position to avoid twisting the penetrating object. When squatting down, one leg should be in the middle. Kneel onto the outer leg and lower yourself. For the leg in the middle, it can be either extended full, partially, or half-bent. A more extended leg will create more of a stretch and deeper squat, whereas a leg bent at the knee will keep the receiver more elevated. The penetrating partner can then bend the knee being straddled to create an easy seat! To move in the side saddle, the penetrating partner can thrust upwards using their hips. The receiving partner can rock forward and back or press on their legs and knees for momentum to bounce up and down. Bouncing will engage the legs and glutes for a strong sex workout!
Why Try the Side Straddle Sex Position?
The Side Straddle offers a new angle for penetration that can be great for penis owners who have a slight bend. This position can help to offset a leftward bend or increase the feeling of the bend. Or, the opposite leg can be straddled for more left-leaning penetration. What I love about this position is the ability of the receiving partner to rock forward onto the penetrating partner’s knee. This gives an easy option for indirect clitoral stimulation! Also, for those who love a bit more of a workout, the receiving partner gets a great stretch with the extended leg!
Variation 4: The Lazy Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
Difficulty Rating: 2/5
Love Reverse Cowgirl – but need to take a bit of a break from riding? The Lazy Reverse Cowgirl is for you! This cuddly version of Reverse Cowgirl offers shallower penetration and takes the work off the receiver's hips. Lean back and let the penetrating partner take a bit more control!
How to do the Lazy Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
Getting into the Lazy Reverse Cowgirl is a quick transition from the Reverse Cowgirl sex position. Beginning in Reverse Cowgirl, the receiving partner should lie back before penetration. To lie down, the receiving partner can use their hands on either side of the penetration partner to ease their back down. The receiving partner’s head can then rest near either side of the penetrating partner’s head or torso (depending on their height). For penetration, the receiving partner reaches down to position the penetrating partner. Depending on the intensity preferred, the receiving partner can opt to keep their legs long and on either side, or together and on top. Having spread legs will allow more space for clitoral stimulation using either partner’s hands or a toy. Or, closed legs will create a position with increased friction. Be mindful in either position that the penetrating object may slip out from shallower penetration. Simply redirect and get back into it.
Why Try the Lazy Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position?
The Lazy Reverse Cowgirl is called so for a reason – to relax and enjoy the ride. In this position, the receiving partner's movement is limited. Instead, the thrusting is up to the penetrator. The Lazy Reverse Cowgirl lessens the strain on the receiver's knees too. For couples who want more closeness during sex, the Lazy Reverse Cowgirl has your bodies pressed together. Plus, with both heads in a similar position, you can nuzzle into your lover’s neck to give kisses, bites, or whisper naughty (or nice) things. Want to use a sex toy for clitoral stimulation? This position offers full access to use a clitoral vibrator , or another option. Unlike in classic Cowgirl, your sex toy (or hands) won't have to contend for space or get knocked into you during thrusts.
Variation 5: The Waterfall
Difficulty Rating: 4/5
The Waterfall sex position is a perfect option for couples who want to add a twist to classic cowgirl. This position uses an off-the-bed angle to obscure some of the penetrating partner’s view so they can focus more on sensations. The Waterfall sex position is like the Bridge penis masturbation position, but with a partner involved!
How to do the Waterfall Sex Position
The Waterfall Sex position requires a bed, or other firm, long elevated surface to achieve. Ensure this surface is not too high. The penetrating partner should be able to rest their head and the top of their shoulders with ease. Pillows can also be used to decrease the ‘drop’ of the Waterfall.
First, the penetrating partner will need to lie flat on their back on the chosen surface. Their head and shoulders should be off the end of the surface. They can then reach back and down to the ground, using their hands on the ground to shift their upper body off the surface. When they have moved so that only their upper body is off, they can then lower themselves towards the ground. Their head and shoulders should rest comfortably on the ground. A pillow can help with this! We recommend checking in with the penetrating partner to ensure they are comfortable and not faint at any point from added blood flow to the head.
The receiving partner gets into position just like classic Cowgirl. This is done by facing forward and straddling the hips before lowering down for penetration. However, it is recommended that they lean back slightly during their ride to avoid falling forward at any point.
Why Try the Waterfall Sex Position?
The Waterfall sex position isn’t about water- it's about blood flow. This leaned-back (or inverted) Cowgirl position retains blood flow in the penetrating partner’s legs. The Waterfall also encourages blood flow down towards the heart and head. This flow can increase muscular awareness and the intensity of feeling within the body during sex. Plus, the penetrating partner's view is obscured. With the penetrating partner’s head far below where the receiving partner is riding, they are unable to easily see the riding partner. This can be an exciting way to get them to ride out the sensations, focusing on feeling instead of the visual of the ride! Or, for those who enjoy exploring power play, the Waterfall’s position gives further control to the receiving partner. In Waterfall, it’s difficult for the penetrating partner to thrust or add movement. This means the receiving partner gets to take the lead.
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Love the clitoral sensation in Seesaw and Side Straddle but aren’t getting the same sensation in classic Cowgirl? A vibrating cock ring makes all the difference! An option like the Cosmo Dual Delight Couple’s Ring provides a satisfying vibration with external rabbit ears for added sensation. Plus, it doesn’t just vibrate externally. With the firm ring surrounding the penis, the penetrating partner will vibrate slightly too for added internal fun.
Cowgirl is one ride that you’ll want to go on again and again. Not only does the receiving partner have more control over movement and sensation, but there are plenty of sex position variations to try. Get closer with Lazy Reverse Cowgirl, get in on the grind with Seesaw or Side Straddle, or explore new angles with Reverse Cowgirl and Waterfall. If you’re looking for more, add in a stamina ring for firmness, or explore vibrating cock ring options to add more sensation for both partners. There are plenty of ways to ride Cowgirl style. So go on, giddy-up!
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