Utilising backdoor toys can bring us to the most pleasurable and orgasmic moments within our sex lives. It's not only incredibly satisfying but also has plenty of health benefits. Prostate massage can reduce the chance of prostate cancer, prostatitis, genital pain and erectile dysfunction. Further, it can enhance erectile function, and betters seminal fluid circulation.
Other than feeling great, for women it can be a substitute for period sex and eliminates any chance of pregnancy. Basically, there are oodles of benefits people can derive from anal play, but there are a few situations where one shouldn't use anal toys. Therefore, don't use anal toys if!
You are drunk or high
Sure, you've stumbled home with someone and had perfectly safe vanilla sex. The same attitude should not be applied to anal play. The chances of something going wrong when overly intoxicated increases tenfold. Think about all the times one of your friends has woken up with some sort of bruise or scar they have no recollection of, you don't want a similar injury to be associated with your backside and have no idea what happened. Substances affect someone's ability to think, notably it influences feelings of self-control. This is clearly a problem for both parties involved as your usual limits may be breached and can greatly affect feelings of trust in a relationship.
What's more concerning is that intoxication affects your ability to receive sensation. Therefore, you may not know whether something is actually uncomfortable or painful. Obviously, you can't communicate that something is painful if you aren’t even noticing it, unlike sober anal sex which where you can easily avoid injury because you can respond to what your body is telling you!
You are unsafe/irresponsible
You may be surprised, at least, hopefully you are anyway. But throughout the history of anal stimulators people have participated in a variation of guerrilla tactics. People have inserted a plethora of alternative products into their anus, including many types of bottles, a peanut butter jar, a flashlight, even a set of keys. If you don't believe me, google some x-rays of foreign bodies that caused an embarrassing visit to the emergency department. Anal sex toys are designed so that penetration is as comfortable and stress free as possible, therefore it's highly recommended if not imperative that these are the only things that enter your backdoor. Therefore, if you take little care as to anal safety and how things are inserted, then anal toys are not recommended. Although toys are safe to use, they are dangerous if used incorrectly or carelessly. Even Harvard has taken the initiative to ensure anal safety!
You are void of bodily knowledge
Your introduction to anal sex can be the make or break moment of exploring pleasure, or writing the experience off for the rest of your life. Physical memory should be considered when trying anal play, if your first experience with anal play is overtly uncomfortable, forceful and lacking communication with a partner, then it's understandable you don't want to do it ever again. If you haven't done any risqué research then you’re unlikely to know what to expect and how the process should feel. If you're in the process and are suddenly thinking, "should it hurt this much," "should it feel this strange," or "is that the prostate gland," then it increases the chances of things going wrong.
How can you communicate with your partner to stop, slow down or change tactics if you're unsure of what is correct yourself? One super important aspect is lubricant! If you didn't know this then don't even think about trying anal play. Unlike the vagina, the butt is not self-lubricating, therefore lubricant is absolutely essential, generous amounts for beginners!
You have certain health issues
Like any part of life, acknowledging health issues, permanent or temporary is vital to ensuring safety. These issues are going to be specific to concerning parts of the body, this could be neuromuscular disorders, food allergies, irritable bowel syndrome, Crohn's disease, colitis, inflammation or any eating disorders. You may have a temporary sickness, food poisoning or the common flu, generally anal play isn't recommended if you are sick. This is because bacteria within the anus is very harmful to mix with other bodies. If you are unsure how to navigate proper anal hygiene then you can make yourself very sick, this is worse if you’re immune system is already struggling from prior sickness. To ensure bacteria doesn’t spread, putting a condom on your favourite anal toy is a place to start.
Important things to remember
Only ever participate in anal play with someone you have complete trust in. The more trust you have in someone, the more comfortable you feel communicating with each other. Insertion needs to be taken slowly. If anything becomes too uncomfortable, then communicate that things should be stopped and perhaps readjusted. Always give time for your body to relax before, during and after anal sex.
Consider that many anal toys have vibration settings. Discovering the best way to play with vibration settings is something both partners need to know. Generally starting at a lower setting and working your way up is recommended!
Lubricant is essential to anal play. For beginners, be generous with anal lubricant, more is always better. Use lubricant to make insertion more comfortable, however some lubricant may dry up during use. Water-based lubricant is usually the quickest to dry up, simply re-apply it if necessary. Silicone lubricant will last longer, but should not be used with silicone anal toys. This may degrade the material!
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