Why does my husband want me to insert things into his anus?

Editor's Note: This article was originally published in November 2019 and was updated in October 2026.

We often answer questions from customers here - and our latest is one that is surprisingly common.

Why does my husband want me to insert things into his anus?

Put simply - because it feels really good! You should never do anything in the bedroom that you're not comfortable with, but if you'd like to find out why your partner is keen to do anal play, you've come to the right place.

An introduction to anal play

First, The P-spot. Never heard of it? Let me tell you all about it.

The p-spot is an erogenous zone that is located between the bladder and the rectum in men. Like the g-spot in women, the p-spot is full of nerve endings that are ready to be stimulated! Generally, about two knuckles into your anus is the p-spot. It feels similar to the G-spot on a woman. Soft, a bit squishy. It's about the size of a 5c piece.

Use your finger to find it. The point of using a finger is to familiarise yourself with what feels good so that once practicing with an anal toy, you can incorporate similar movements. Basically, what you want to do is provide pressure to different parts of your prostate gland to see what feels comfortable. If you suddenly feel encouraged to urinate or feel sensations that feel similar to the beginning of an orgasm, you’re touching your prostate. Don't worry that feeling is completely normal.

You can achieve orgasm through stimulating the prostate with your fingers, a penis, or sex toys. But it's a totally different orgasm. P-spot orgasms allow you to reach orgasm without touching your penis.

So, no wonder your husband wants to give it a go!

Why sex toys are fun

Backdoor toys can bring us to the most pleasurable and orgasmic moments within our sex lives. It's not only incredibly satisfying but also has plenty of health benefits. Prostate massage can reduce the chance of prostate cancer, prostatitis, genital pain and erectile dysfunction. Further, it can enhance erectile function and betters seminal fluid circulation.

P-spot anal toys differ by the design, material and their accompanying features. If you're keen to give it a go - here are some toys you could try.

If you've never tried anal play, the Anal Fantasy Kit is just what you need to explore the amazing world of anal stimulation.

The Anal Fantasy Kit features six unique pieces perfect for your first-time anal encounter. Try the beaded probe for gradual anal stimulation, the prostate stimulator to hit just the right spot, or the suction-cup plug for a wall banging good time!

Anal Fantasy Collection Deluxe Fantasy Kit$103.95Shop Now

Try a plug on its own if you don't want to do the inserting. There are plenty of plugs to choose from and once they're in, they stay in! The B-vibe P-spot Curl Massager is cleverly curved for P-Spot stimulation, while the rounded nub at the base provides external pressure to the perineum. It's a wonderful combo your husband will love (and you can try it too!)

B-vibe P-spot Curl Massager$106.95Shop Now

The Snug Plug 2 is an ultra-comfortable, 114-gram weighted butt plug that is designed to provide a sensual feeling of fullness. You can wear it during sex or enjoy discreetly for extended wear. Snug Plugs are made of body-safe, seamless silicone and feature a think, flexible neck and smooth grip handle.

B-vibe Snug Plug 2$85.95Shop Now

Your husband could wear a plug that doubles as a cockring to hold it in. There are a lot of options here too. The Ass-Gasm Cockring Plug is a great toy. It is made entirely from silky-smooth Elite Silicone, and it doubles as a performance-enhancing cockring, allowing the wearer to prolong ejaculation and extend the fun while enjoying incredible prostate stimulation. And it vibrates too.

Assgasm Cockring Vibrating Plug$43.95Shop Now

Important things to remember

Only ever participate in anal play with someone you have complete trust in. The more trust you have in someone, the more comfortable you feel communicating with each other. Insertion needs to be taken slowly. If anything becomes too uncomfortable, then communicate that things should be stopped and perhaps readjusted. Always give time for your body to relax before, during and after anal sex.
Consider that many anal toys have vibration settings. Discovering the best way to play with vibration settings is something both partners need to know. Generally starting at a lower setting and working your way up is recommended!
Lubricant is essential to anal play. For beginners, be generous with anal lubricant, more is always better. Use lubricant to make insertion more comfortable, however some lubricant may dry up during use. Water-based lubricant is usually the quickest to dry up, simply re-apply it if necessary. Silicone lubricant will last longer.
If thinking about purchasing any anal toys, there's no need to worry about your privacy being breached. All orders are shipped in discreet plain packaging to ensure confidentiality. If you have any queries, checkout our delivery information page or feel free to contact customer service!

Frequently Asked Questions

Why does my husband want to try anal play?

For many men, anal play feels pleasurable because it can stimulate the prostate, also known as the P-spot. This sensitive area has lots of nerve endings and can create a different kind of orgasm when stimulated with fingers, a penis, or anal toys.

What anal toys are best for beginners?

If you’re new to anal play, start with beginner-friendly anal toys that are small, smooth, and designed for easy insertion. Anal plugs, prostate stimulators, and starter kits can all be good options, especially when used slowly with plenty of lubricant.

How can we make anal play safe and comfortable?

Go slowly, communicate clearly, and only try anal play with someone you trust. Use plenty of anal lubricant, reapply as needed, and stop if anything feels painful or uncomfortable. Choosing body-safe toys with a flared base can also help make anal play safer and more enjoyable.

Be safe out there!

With great power, comes great responsibility! If you've got the expertise to use anal toys, checkout Adulttoymegastore's full range of anal toys, including anal beads, anal lubes and butt plugs.

Learn more about anal toys:

From how to use sex toys to the most discreet options for beginners. Find out more about sex toys from our team of sexual wellness experts.

Want to learn more about sex & pleasure?

Get educated with our Sex Ed Hub.

Content disclaimer:

Adulttoymegastore does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment for illness. Any information published on this website, either by Adulttoymegastore of its authors, is not intended to be a substitute for medical advice, and you should not take any action before consulting with a medical professional.